This week was less than productive for me. I ended last week with 72-hour migraine, and this week I have been fighting a miserable head cold. That being said, I haven’t crossed as many items off my to-do list as I had hoped. But I have been thinking a lot about perspective, specifically my perspective as a parent.
I wrote that meme because it was a something that happened to me a few weeks ago (and has probably happened to a few of you as well). I think we can all agree that perspective means a lot.
I have been feeling run down lately, and a few days ago as I was lying in bed waiting for my headache medicine to kick in, I thought about something my mom told me earlier. I was worrying and complaining to her that I wasn’t being an awesome mom, that I was falling short and letting my family down. She told me when she was a young mother with young boisterous children that she hated Mother’s Day.
I grew up in a pious Mormon family, and on every Mother’s Day the church would have a lovely Mother’s Day program with touching stories and children singing, complete with flowers for each woman in the congregation. When she told me she hated it, I couldn’t fathom how she would hate such a lovely day.
She relayed to me the exact thoughts I was having about myself. That she wasn’t as good as the mothers spoken about in the church meeting, that she wasn’t going to leave the impressions on us that these special and extraordinary mothers had left on their children. It was a reminder that she wasn’t doing as well as everyone else.
As weird as it sounds, this conversation gave me extreme comfort. My mom IS extraordinary and special. My mom IS someone who is a perfect example of motherhood awesomeness. I could stand and lecture the world on how amazing MY mom is.
So if she felt the exact same way as I do, than maybe there is hope for me.
“You are doing better than you think you are.” – Jeffery R. Holland
I think sometimes we feel internal (or external) pressure to fit into a box. Or we compare our journey to someone else’s. There is room for everyone to be awesome. There is room for everyone to make a difference, and be amazing to the people closest to them.
All mothers are awesome in their own way.
All mothers nurture in their own way.
Remember you are doing awesome.
Happy Mother’s Day.